they all annoy me. there are two different types of duties. 1. the ones that dont really have any impact on others (social norms)... and 2. the instances that immediately effect someone interacting with you.(ie favors). the simple instances.., the number 1s are all arguable (as they truly do not apply to the specific individual in most cases, but moreso the culture in which the individual is currently a part of. there is no consideration for outside variables.. or logic. it just is what it is)... many times these have become pointless as they have loss their significance as a society progresses (or simply didnt mean anything to begin with). and can be simply chalked up as a cultural norm. varying from country to country, region to region: going to church on sundays, "dressing up" for special occasions, taking off a hat while indoors, not showing the soles of your feet, avoiding the use of the left hand in social interactions, using certain silverware for certain tasks at the dinner table... etc. all the cute stuff.
then there are the favors.. the ones that actually matter. the number 2 duties... i dont like these either... but moreso by association as ill explain later. the: waiting patiently for an oblivious j-walker (Josh), holding doors for people (i dont have a problem with helping someone i care about, or a complete stranger for that matter, in fact i highly value this concept... what i dont value is the expectation.. the "duty") maybe im a rebel with no cause.. maybe im childish at times- though i cant help that, considering i was born that way- but all of the expectations and duties are a real put off for me (and maybe even cause me to ignore the good intentions behind the initial act at first (like rushing ahead to open a door for a lady)... its not the actual "requirement" that bothers me. not the act itself. but the attitude that is created because it is an expected duty. i think that when people expect certain things from another individual, they loose some value... the extra effort is no longer as appreciated. however miniscule the task at hand may be.
there is no reason not to help someone in need in a situation that cannot potentially harm you. there is no reason to take that act of kindness for granted.
