why is it that people tend to ignore situations / signs of a foreboding situation that are deemed as uncomfortable or ominous? in other words.. why do people resort to denial in the face of opposition?
as with anything involving the human element, the assessment of the psychological reasoning behind the use of denial as a means of self defense, there can be numerous reasons as to why a person chooses to embrace this method of coping. but the most obvious and common place reasoning behind these instances can be broken down into a simple blanket statement.
- it is easy (in comparison to any other viable approach) and convenient
it is always easier to avoid, than to confront. it takes a lot for an individual to accept some perceived dire situations. in many instances, it is far easier to deny something than to accept it. for this acceptance, to many people, not only is it scary, but is often seen as defeat. a giving up of sorts. not to preach, but my father has always said "a real man takes his stripes, but always continues to walk" conveying that, it is sometimes better to chalk a situation up for what it really is (for a common after effect of denial is the progression of further damage. as denial can only temporarily put something out of consciousness. not actually remove or solve a problem), learn, and keep moving. granted, some situations call for a sense of temporary relieval, a temporary trip away from what is reality to maintain a stable mental state, (whether it be music, sports, drugs, arts, going to the movies.. whatever suits you and your individual path) - all of which show a significant rise in participation during trying times and situations such as economic downturn- but one must remember that these are only temporary "trips" away. not necessarily solutions. there is nothing wrong with embracing adversity, because honestly. rather you want it to or not, (like when you were little, that one aunt that would come over on holidays... the one that would immediately come in asking "where is little ___" the one that would then squeeze the life out of you, then proceed to kiss all over your face... leaving red lip stick all over your face... and then proceed to pinch those very same already pre-reddened and now, sore cheeks after you thought you were safe because all of the hugging and kissing was over) it will find you. why run? why fear? everything is balanced. just be ready. nothing wrong with seeing something, accepting it for what it is. as long as you continue to walk... even if it is against the tide.
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